Often, when people want to know more about us, they ask “what do you do?” What’s interesting, though, is how most of us answer with “I am” statements: I am a coach, I am a podcaster, I am a dad, etc. We live in a culture that tells us to build our self-concept and find […]
My father, Robert L. Van Horn, passed away on June 14, 2018, so it seemed right to take some time on Father’s Day, June 17, 2018, to record a tribute to him while the events of the last 2 weeks are still fresh in my mind. Right up to the very end of his 83 […]
This past week, I’ve been thinking about the old poem “Ozymandias” and the song “All This Time” by Sting. Both talk about ancient ruins of things created many years ago; things, when they were created, were thought would last forever and leave a significant mark on history. Yet, nobody remembers the builders and the things […]
Self-image comes down to what it is that we value, what we find worthy about ourselves, and what we look for from others to validate that worthiness. There is a Hebrew word “kavod” that means weight, value, significance, and worth. It is also translated in English as “glory,” but it always means what is glorious, […]
I opened a fortune cookie and found this fortune: Happiness is an inside job. I love that, but I want to take it to its ultimate application: Everything is an inside job! Our lives are not determined by outside forces, circumstances, or luck. They are guided by what’s inside us: thoughts, feelings, beliefs, our self-concept. […]
We always get more of what we focus on. We always become what we hold as our self-concept. Do you have a positive focus for your thoughts, feelings, imagination, and actions? Positive focus is different that positive thinking. With a positive focus, you can allow negative thoughts, recognize them for what they are, deal with […]
Image is everything! I’m not talking about fashion or what you look like. I’m talking about your self-image, who and what you imagine yourself to be. You will create the life you consistently see yourself living. Countless studies have proven the power of visualization and linked success and failure to the image we hold of […]
Forgiveness is the most beautiful, precious you will ever give yourself. Forgiveness is a gift you give to YOU, not to other people. When you forgive, you release yourself from all of the poison and toxins of negative thoughts that are highly corrosive to your life. It doesn’t mean you stay in that relationship or […]
Everyone is, on some level, a leader. Not everyone, however, is a positive leader. People who lead from position, from an attitude of dominance and force may be able to get people to do certain things for a brief period of time, but that leader rarely last long and the results are rarely what the […]
Have you ever been to a really wonderful, fun, exciting party? I mean a party in which you were totally happy to be there and you were happy everyone else was there, too. You were dancing, laughing, talking, eating! Then, out of the corner of your eye, you see someone you don’t like and you […]