LIAM 061 – The Prison of Perfectionism

I meet so many people who are living in prison. It’s a prison of their own making. It’s the prison of perfectionism. Listen as I talk about the prison, how we put ourselves in it, and how to set yourself free:

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Show Outline:

  1. In my coaching practice, there’s something I encounter too frequently–people in the prison of perfectionism.
  2. Writers who won’t write, musicians who won’t record, artists who won’t draw or paint–or, at least, won’t show their work to other people.
  3. We believe our work must be perfect before we can show it to anyone.
    1. The blog post
    2. The business article
    3. The novel
    4. The painting
    5. The software project
    6. The simple journal or diary entry
    7. The dream of an amazing life
  4. It’s not the fear of failure, it’s the fear of criticism
    1. Maybe it was parents or teachers who told you it must be perfect. It’s a lie. There’s no such thing!
    2. If perfection exists, there wouldn’t be software upgrades, new models of cars, 2nd editions of books
    3. I could have just recorded 1 podcast, instead of 61 and counting until I get it right!
  5. Imperfect work shared will change more lives than perfect work kept hidden!
  6. My software development taught me: create a minimally viable product, launch, then improve
  7. Start where you are. Use what you have. Do what you can. – Arthur Ashe
  8. Set yourself up for victory, not failure.
    1. Build momentum
    2. Get feedback
    3. Change course as needed
  9. Stop waiting for all of the conditions to be right, all the lights to be green, all thoughts to be organized
    1. You don’t need more time, you don’t need more money, you don’t need more ideas
    2. Just start!
    3. Get feedback, make improvements along the way
    4. Ms. Frizzle (The Magic School Bus): Take chances, make mistakes, get messy!
  10. In my experience as a writer, speaker, musician–the work I thought was the most flawed is often the work that deeply touches someone’s life. You have the ability to change the entire world–for one person!
  11. Enjoy the process. Have fun!!
  12. Put yourself on parole! Swing the gates wide! Set yourself free from the prison of perfectionism!

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3 Responses to LIAM 061 – The Prison of Perfectionism

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    Lena Jackson February 5, 2015 at 10:12 am #

    Wow, these are good reminders. Thanks for sharing. I needed to read this today.

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    Obinna February 11, 2015 at 9:13 am #

    Yaa, that’s what has been keeping from doing things I needed to do – fear of criticism. Thanks alot!

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    Alex Flores February 27, 2015 at 1:49 am #

    Great episode! Thanks so much for speaking right to the core of what is a daily battle in my life and I’m sure in the lives of many others. Keep doing what you’re doing 🙂

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